She's taking a stand on leaving. Fine she can leave. It's not like you're physically forcing her to stay. But something in her is not rushing it. Guilt...shame...disappointment, it's all going on in her right now.
Once you understand that that is what she is going through, then you will be able to show her compassion. You can't change what she doesn't feel at the time, so understanding is all you have right now.
In some of your posts you still say "I can't see why...". That shows you have yet to really understand how to show compassion. It's when you stop questioning it and just accept it, then your W will be able to see the changes. Don't worry we all go through that and it takes awhile to learn.
See the separation as a good thing to let her get herself straightened out first. Let me put it to you this way. Do you really want her back the way she is now?
I think she is rushing to leave. I told her I love her so much that I want her to feel free to leave on 3/20. She's planning on leaving 4/17 - the week after my oldest turns 7. That seems pretty rushed to me
All my friends feel she is truly done and will not be looking back. I must accept that as a reality. I don't agree but it is what it is. I will continue to be the best man I can be
Any suggestions on how to make the most of the 3 weeks we have left in the house together?
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
