I apologize if you took my post the wrong way. I didn't mean that you were not supportive of her. I see that you are, especially where it comes to comforting her about her dad.
I was just trying to take a look at where she might be coming from with respect to the mother's day gift. You know your w better than any of us and I'm trying to get you to look at her point of view to better understand where her crazy actions are coming from. You love her for a reason and you still want to be with her, so it may do some good to look at her positive attributes. Focusing on the negative won't help to improve your m, imo.
I agree with what Sandi wrote about choosing gifts: "A gift should be like an act of "grace".......nothing about earning or deserving should be involved in true gift giving." I'm also thinking that receiving gifts and words of affirmation may be your w's love languages?
