Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing

[Thinker]

Hmmm...food for thought.

I have really only done 3 180's

1) GAL - really a 180 for me to go from the non-working out, non social stay at home to the opposite.

2) Stop the Pursuit

3) Detach and stop trying to control

I have also been successfully focused on PMA - I started acting as if things were ok with me and as if her moods and withdrawal were not impacting me, and sure enough it actually began working on me. I AM happy and cheerful - and I AM ignoring her when she is in a foul mood.

Now I am wondering if it is a see-saw effect - the happier and more engaged I get, the more she withdraws and gives in to her own unhappiness.

Hmmm...as I said, food for thought.

For now, however, I want to try to stop analyzing her and our sitch. The answer seems to continue to be the same - detach, be patient, give her space, and focus on myself.