Nothing is more attractive than confidence (note: not arrogance).
Be honest with yourself and take this opportunity to work on you. If you ask me, you've already started down that path. I think you like the changes and I think your H does as well although that's not something you'll know for a very long time. You'll have to do the changes for you and he'll have to make his own choices. I think we can see what choices he wants to make though...
Keep it up. Don't slide.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
