This is powerful; yet a little unclear. If I understand you Coach; I'm to be confident, plan our time together, something that works with her LL; and yet that is somehow not pursuing. Obviously, I'm not going to be begging, showering her with gifts, etc.; not that type of pursuit.
Yes, be in charge. Plan a easy fun date.
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But last April, she had mentioned that she had always wanted me to pursue her. That's where I have trouble. The history behind us; and her desire to date, with my knowledge that she wanted me to pursue her last year. Putting all that together without sabotaging our recovery or appearing fake is a perceived obstacle to me right now. Not one that cannot be overcome; just something that seems unnatural. For some reason I feel I have to "date" her as though I would someone I've just met; and that would require acting. "as if?"
She wants to know you are thinking about her, that she matters to you. She wants to feel appreciated. That you went out of your way to show her she is the most important person in the world to you. Not acting as if but engaged while you two are together. Look at it this way: you are dating someone different than before. Have you changed? You get another chance to have the marriage you truly desire. So how do you make that happen?
Cheers Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
