When last we met, W "found" -- for lack of less measured term -- an email from SP's mother in which said mother lashed out in what was, to be truthful, an inappropriate way.
And SP busted W, within limits, on her EA and has, in addition, correctly identified the enabling girlfriend. Who is single. Of course.
After WAW and SP had a couple of spats -- though SP never raised the voice, never argued back -- the tension level in the house has dropped.
Today we see S's therapist to learn how to break the news to him. WAW is actively on the housing market and looking for a new place, effective 6/1 or 6/15 -- after the school year ends, to minimize potential behavioral disruptions by children.
We gave up the idea of a "date" as a different opportunity presented itself and are now having an "outing" with friends from out-of-town whose kids are friends with ours. Less pressure, insulation, ability to talk to others. Give us a chance to take each other's measure.
And something clicked in SP. I've been in a good mood the past couple days. It's as if I've achieved "as-if-itude." Starting some new activities on Saturday and Thursday next. Work is going well. I've accepted some speaking engagements. And, though I know it doesn't comport with the main body of opinion here, if WAW intends to "date" while we are physically separated -- which is her expressed intention -- then fine, off she goes.
Had a good session with DB Coach yesterday, picked up two new strategies and some suggestions for tonight's outing.
It ain't easy being a Double-Nought Spy, Uncle Jed, but someone's gotta do it.
