Is your H willing to commit to anything to work on his alcoholism, such as AA?
Until the alcoholism is dealt with, I am totally blinded by it. I have a hard time being happy for you when you talk about spooning and snuggling, or when you try to claim that things are "better."
In other words, in my view, the alcoholism is the highest priority to address. The next priorities are 1) the root that causes him to turn to alcohol, and 2) the reasons that you stay by his side and enable him.
You asking him to stop drinking alone is not going to be enough.
Please tell me: Is your H willing to commit to anything to work on his alcoholism, such as AA?
