And if you really get to a point where you want to point blank ask her "What's up? S**t or get off the pot..." that is up to you. Only you can make that call. But I understand you get to a point where you are ready to ask that question. BUT make sure you are ready if she says I want to leave.
I'm not ready to ask that question yet.
It just seems to me like right now she is pulling farther and farther away and the R is getting progressively worse and worse and since she pathologically avoids any discussions or conflict with me and since I am not initiating any R discussions, I am just sitting here and watching the wall (of distance, issues and misunderstandings) between us get bigger and higher.
Somehow, if we are ever going to start making things better, we have to start talking. I am trying to figure out how start knocking the wall down.
It seems almost certain right now that if left to her own, my W will only keep building it higher. That's what my C was telling me - I am the only one working on things right now, so I am the only one who can start taking bricks off the wall.
Last edited by Thinker; 03/27/0902:23 PM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
