WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 6

[confusedinpa]

Right now she's shut down because she doesn't understand what the heck is going on with her. She doesn't think she has the problem and is trying to do everything herself without really understanding what's going on. Typical MLC stuff.

You can show her compassion by understanding her confusion. She doesn't know why she feels trapped, she just knows she has to leave. She has to get to the point where she understands why she feels trapped in the first place. Only then can she truly feel "free".

Pick up clues from what she tells you and write them down as you have been. Try understanding her more from the little tidbits she tells you.

I was thinking about bringing up her "trapped" feeling in our counseling session on Monday. What do you think?

Another thing that she had brought up last ntie, when she tossed out the custody discussion and B'day party date discussion again, she said that she would have a lot more "respect" for me if I would just accept what she wants to do with both of them. She had said that she felt I still was not accepting the reality of the situation. Not sure if this is a tactic on her part to get me to just give her what she wants or what....