Hi Lisa, I guess if you really wanted to get the info you could hire a PI, but it would cost. I thought you just needed her address not who as well.
I was desperate to go that route,partly on religious grounds and partly to shame them-I know not kind but thats how I felt back them particularly as I knew her and she did some dreadful things to me,almost (looking back) willing me to know!
My solicitor said I had left it too late had to be done within 6mths of separating. Not sure if it actually makes any difference to financial aspect. Adultery means nothing to day from a courts pov, or most people come to that. I did actually state the reason on my sworn statement so felt a little better.
I think your H would have wanted to make it as easy and as painless as he could for you given that you get on so well-hmm I guess thats a contradiction in terms. Did you enjoy the glorious weather we have been having.
I'm curious.. you say you wont name her then if he wont give you the address, but you saw him for dinner and he didnt mention it.. did you ask him? Directly again? H, can I have aub's address for the paperwork? And if not, why did you shy away from confronting this with him and will resort to filling it out without adding her? And I agree with Naej, why is he not being cooperative!?
.. I am glad you say you have no regrets and gave it your best shot.. but I often thought there is one thing you didnt try (and I may have to do this).. stop being so available. Stop replying to emails.. stop meeting him for lunch, stop being so damn nice to him maybe! How do you think he would really react if you just took a break from him, or put up a stronger boundary, or stopped seeing him for a while?? Would he miss you? You've never really tested that and I know y ou will be thinking you did at times not reply to emails for a number of days.. but I mean go a step further than that, stop being so 'ok' about what he has done to you, which afterall, is pretty appalling (seeing aub for 18 months but meeting with you and holding your hand/kissing you but refusing to have an honest conversation about his intentions). I may have to take a break from my ex in this way if he continues to see helen, but I would still want us to resume our friendship later, when the emotion has died down.
So..if you say its a pain, but maybe he didnt realise that, why dont you just talk to him, honestly, about how hard it is to proceed without his help and why wont he give you her address? Could you do that?
As for CEO.. I dont know, I still vote for get him drunk and then flirt for England..!
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I am sure Lisa could go at least one better lets make it the UK and Commonwealth. Hope all is well with you Lisa, I knew buying some new summer clothes would be the kiss of death to our weather! oh well now I will be ready for when summer arrives.
((((guys))) you flatter me and my flirting abilities- I seem to have lost my touch!
Mishka- I'm fine, having a good day. CEO and I didn't go out for drinks yesterday- it got rescheduled to a couple of weeks time because he had to go out and earn a crust. It was a relief really because we're going to a ball tomorrow and I was worried about running out of things to say, especially as we've spent the last two days alone all day at work. He's actually in the office now having a nap on the floor under his desk. I can't stop laughing- it's so funny hearing a man sleep; I'd forgotten about how it sounds!
How are you? I hope you're well.
I'm having a dilemma about which dress to wear to the ball tomorrow night- there's the red one that I wore to the dinner in January, or I have a skin-tight black full length halter-neck dress with a silver thread through it so it catches the light as I move. I can't wear any knickers with that dress though and BFF is wearing a black dress and I don't want to match!
I don't really have any other news..... has anyone read the Book Thief? I got to the last chapter on the tube yesterday and it was so sad I ended up weeping as I finished it (right there on the tube). It's a fantastic book- can't recommend it highly enough (very inspirational- don't let me crying put you off!).
or I have a skin-tight black full length halter-neck dress with a silver thread through it so it catches the light as I move. I can't wear any knickers with that dress though
OMG! Wear the black one and post pics in the alt! That sounds to die for.
Ha! Sleeping under his desk? How funny! I imagine that 'earning a crust' must mean that he had to go make some money, right? I don't know if you ever saw it over there, but did you ever see the episode of Seinfeld where George has a cozy nook built in under his desk in the Yankee's office so he can store his blanket, alarm clock, etc for his naps during the day? That's what I thought of immediately when you said that.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Did he wake up? Why you dont take advantage of a sleeping gorgeous man beats me!!! That beaver is about to starve to death. I will report you to WWF if you dont do something about it soon. S
