First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

Thanks for the comments guys.

WP, I appreciate you stopping by and I appreciate the compliments. I do think you're correct that it'll probably take me telling her I've had enough and am walking away for her to figure it out. I hope not, but I see it going that way. I don't know, maybe I'll tell her I'm walking and she'll be ok with it. I have a hard time not believing that she's just not carrying out her plan to hang around until S16 graduates and then she'll say she tried and it didn't work. Her Mom did the same thing to her step dad when W's younger brother was in H.S. Only stayed around for the kids. I think W would be surprised if she'd ever really talk to S16. He's still very angry about everything, especially W not talking to him about how he feels etc. He says every time he tries to talk to her she just changes the subject or walks away. She's going to lose the kids too if she doesn't watch what she's doing.

Mel, I appreciate your comments also. I know I project what I think to her as reality, but it's hard not to when she won't be honest with me about what she's feeling. Retro would have a good chance of doing wonders for us, but so far she's refused to go. I'm going to give that one more chance before I do anything drastic.

I can understand completely anyone in your sitch (and W) feeling like they need to keep things in now, and I can only speak for myself, but I NEED to know those things. Those are the walls that let this happen in the first place. Keeping that stuff in only prevents intimacy. If that's what's going on with W, she's not getting that that will drive me away, not help me.

I hear you on the being up front and calling her on stuff. I have been doing that for a number of months now and she seems to respond in a positive way, but she's still got something holding her back and until she's ready to let go and open up to me, we don't stand a chance. And I'm not sure how much longer I can keep this up.

Talk to ya soon.