Wife is out and annouced OM to all #2

[Tawnya]

{{{Tom}}} First off, I agree that it IS a good thing she has that lease, the end of the year is NOT that far, but far enough to know much better how things are progressing by then.

Again, I think you handled it well and, it sounds like you have the right thoughts of YOU taking control, for lack of a better word, of the situation by doing some of the pursuing, especially since SHE pursued you at first. Though there definitely needs to be some give and take.

This may sound weird and certainly someone who has been thru this can give better advice than I can, but maybe read up on some dating sites..like how long to wait to call, good ways to take things slowly, how to BUILD a strong relationship instead of jumping into one, things like that? Just food for thought..

Also, I think you admitting to yourself that you STILL do love her, through all the STUFF, gives great hope to yourself, to your wife, to your relationship, and to anyone who reads your thread! It CAN be done, but is not easy, at best!

Actually, in all honesty, I think the fact you are NOT sexually attracted to her right now only will work in favor of your relationship right now. It really means you both will take the TIME to relearn each other, the new both of you..without having that as the forefront in your mind. I mean, as we ALL know, the sexually attracted part, at BEST, dwindles at least a LITTLE the longer you are married..LOL..so there has to be some substance and foundation.

Hugs and peace for you my friend!

Tawnya