I agree with Puppy on the Leading. I get the impression that you never really had a chance to "court" her...even in the beginning. That's an exciting part of a dating relationship. The getting to know each other, the wondering whether he'll call, the wondering if he'll ask you out, etc., etc. I think you can make this fun.
You are absolutely correct!! We never got the chance to date; I never had to "court" her. She incessantly pursued me. You know the rest.
That is the paradox in which I find myself. I know that she wants me to lead her and I don't have a problem with that. Where I find myself confused is that I've been in "non-pursuit" mode for so long; I wonder if I'm now supposed to start pursuing because she said she wants to date. Or if not a full pursuit; what kind of pace do I set? Maybe I'm over thinking it. I want to take it slow and continue to let us have our "space." But I don't want to blow the opportunity either.
The reality is that we have all this history and I feel the need to pursue as though she's someone I just met and want to get to know. But, one, I'm a bad actor and I think I might have a problem pretending. I want to act like I do when I'm meeting a girl for the first time. The conversations, the innuendo, etc.; but right now I'm still not sexually attracted to her. My main motivation for trying is to save the marriage.
I guess that's why I've been reading over in Piecing. Searching out other internet sites and I plan on going to the book store this weekend.
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We are all so rooting for you and praying that her heart's in the right place this time!!!!! (((((TOM)))))
Amy
I pray that her heart is in the right place as well. I wonder if a conversation about what I expect her behavior to be in order for me to date her is proper in my sitch. Or do I just start dating her like I just met her and see where that goes?
Thanks Amy. You know I always value your input. I need make a new list
