Ex emailed me today asking if I would like to have the kids on my birthday, which is Saturday. He said, "even though it is my weekend with the kids, it would be rude of me not to ask you if you would like them on your birthday... Just checking in, ex"


I did not respond yet. A 180 would be for me to say something like, Thank so much for the offer, however I have made adult plans.

Ex always complained that I was "too much into the children" and I did not ever want to do any adult things.

I really am quite busy that day. I have to work 10 hours.

Any suggestions?

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11