AHHHHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHHHAHAHHA!!! You know what that means. \:D
So today H calls to ask how the "I'm turning down the job" phone call went. We talked for a few minutes, he was having a long work day and he was still working, so I told him to call me when he was done and if he wanted to grab dinner, we could do that. He said "Sounds good."
He gets done, calls me, we meet for dinner.
He starts off in a foul foul mood.
He said something about "Everyone needs to leave me alone, I just need a break." I jokingly asked if he wanted us to leave, me and S. H said "Naw, I want to hang out with S.....and you're ok too." And he gives me a smile with a wink.
Over dinner, and a beer for him, I got him to relax, smile more, tell me what was really bothering him. (Basically people yelling at him about things out of his control and all he can do is take the yelling with a smile, a fake one, but a smile still.)
I asked jokingly "Do you want to go to Walmart and get some boxing gloves and we'll box later, work it all out?" He says "Nay, I'd rather ML." BIG Smile, Big Wink, followed up with some eyebrow raises. I smiled but ignored him and just kept talking.
I told him about some funny things at work for me today and it was all just very light on my side.
When we were leaving I asked "Do you want us to come home with you and we can watch a movie or whatever....?" He said "I don't know.....I know I don't want to make decisions anymore." He then puts his head on my shoulder, so I wrapped my arms around him and said "It's all better after a few drinks, a relaxing night, catching up on TV and a really really good night sleep." So I told him to head home and relax and he said "Ok, we'll see what tomorrow brings...."
Then he loaded up S and I came to my Girlfriend/Roommates place. And so far, no contact.
Not one mention of anything dangerous or now off limits. All very light and he started off in a FOUL ROTTEN mood and by the time we said bye, he was smiling again, more relaxed. I hope I had more to do with it than the two beers.
I also think he and ex-OW had very little to nothing to say to each other today. Oddly enough, I feel bad that his heart is probably a little sore over that.
But a damn good day.
AND an old friend found me in a new way.....very very excited about that. I can't explain why, but it's very cool.