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Validating your way to a divorce.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

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This was 5 weeks ago before I knew what the hell was going on. If I did that now Jack would be hitting me with a 2x4.

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Only if you wanted to DB Needs. : ) I don't really hit people who don't want to DB...ok I hit them once and if nothing I said stings or hurts...then they are making the right choice.



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Originally Posted By: needhelpinmi
This was 5 weeks ago before I knew what the hell was going on. If I did that now Jack would be hitting me with a 2x4.



So how are you doing with that ? Been reading ?

BTW ? A bean pole hurts worse........LOL

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Originally Posted By: needhelpinmi
This was 5 weeks ago before I knew what the hell was going on. If I did that now Jack would be hitting me with a 2x4.



So how are you doing with that ? Been reading ?

BTW ? A bean pole hurts worse........LOL


I've read a ton and re-read and re-read. Opened my eyes a lot.

I'll take your word for it on the bean pole.

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Originally Posted By: needhelpinmi
Originally Posted By: Mach1
Originally Posted By: needhelpinmi
This was 5 weeks ago before I knew what the hell was going on. If I did that now Jack would be hitting me with a 2x4.



So how are you doing with that ? Been reading ?

BTW ? A bean pole hurts worse........LOL


I've read a ton and re-read and re-read. Opened my eyes a lot.

I'll take your word for it on the bean pole.



Yea......you never see them coming is the rough part of them....

I'm glad you are reading, it helps to actually understand WHY you are doing this. Instead of doing it cause someone told you to.

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I was doing it because I want to try everything to save my marriage. THe reading brings things into focus as to why things are happening and helps me to understand that she is really in pain. That deep down she is really not enjoying what she is doing right now.

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One would really have to hate another to do this on purpose.....



One day at a time my friend......

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I need some advice on a situation.

My W last week was saying how she felt like the world's worst mom so she started calling everyday at 5:30 to talk the kids on days she didn't see them. It seems as though she has cycled back to her "it's all about me" persona. Yesterday when she was here with the kids she didn't do anything with them. She watched TV and took a bath. Today no phone call.

How do I handle this? Do I call her out on it and tell her how disappointed the kids are? I know she will say that I should have reminded her to which I am going to want to say that you wanted to be on your own, you need to remember things yourself.

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No.

Are the kids dissappointed or are you dissappointed in her for the kids?

It is hard not to use the kids as tools to force them to act they way you want them too.

As for the reminder? pppffht! I agree with you on that.

Don't use the kids to make her do anything, you love on the kids when your bat [censored] crazy wife cannot.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

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