Accelerated divorce due to OM...normal?

[sweet-1]

I should add, she moved into her appt on Feb 4, 2009. Because she needed her own space (I believed her). I was left in possession of the house, and a week later all the utilities to the house were disconnected. Luckily I was in the process of switching them solely to me when it happened, so other than phone and cable, no real disruptions.

Her cell bill is almost $300/month...holy crap! Guessing she has no landline in the appt.

My first lawyer visit was Feb 7, 2009. (I found a draft statement of claim from Jan 27 under the couch while vacuuming). My lawyer advised me to not leave the hosue for my week from that point on, seems she had been planning to keep the appt in the next town, then on her week with the kids stay at the house for the week. Other than that there was nothing he could advise me on until formally served (happened feb 18, dated Feb 4, she didn't want to hire someone, or do it her self, so she tried to get my friends to do it..I heard about it almost immediately, but figured it was a mind game)

Confused yet? I have been for a while, it's almost too much to try and put it in words. Not sure if it's orchestrated or totally random. My lawyer can't see a pattern to her actions either, he wonders if she's being totally upfront with her lawyer, or if her primary legal advice is coming from someone else (my guess is dear old dad, very insecure and manipulative). What she's telling the kids is one thing, her family and friends another, then doing yet a third thing. And EVERYTHING is because I drove her to it!