Thanks FIB, I do think I'm starting to get it. I had a wonderful night with my boys last night, very "in the moment" and no complaining from S11 wishing Mom was there. It's always a great sign when he has a million questions, each one a little sillier than the last. A kid being a kid
Another good metaphor that my mom told me is this:
Think of your situation like a bird in a cage. You can flap your wings, crash into the bars, beat yourself senseless, and at the end of the day you're still in the cage, just battered and broken.
Or, you can sit on your swing and sing. Be happy that there's food and water for you, be happy that the cat can't get you, be happy you are not outside in the freezing weather with the other birds. And who knows, maybe that door will open some day. Be strong for when that moment happens.
And on that note, I'd like to post a link to something I found refreshingly optimistic, and I plan to add it to my daily routine Hope you all like it.
