"But the alternative looks so dire. " Yes it does, but you have to see it as an extreme possibility. Only then will you have no fear going forward.
Once you confront that fear of the D (and you will like many of us), you will truly believe that if you work things out you'll do great...if things don't work out you'll do great. We each have our own timeline but there will be a time where something will just 'click'.
Then you'll truly be happy and no matter what the W (and the world for that matter) throws at you, you'll be prepared. How do you get there? One step at a time, one second at a time.
It's weird how our WAS's have have that 'power' over us when this first happens.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.