Email - I have access to it but it's the same one as before.
Job- work in progress. She wants out of her job ASAP, but it takes longer than I expected to get her a new job I promised, it's been dragging too long but some things are beyond my control.
I just read what I wrote: I'm becoming Mr Nice Guy again or rather Mr Compromise! Thanks Puppy, I needed this kick in the butt!
I can't remember -- does she have contact with OM at her job?
Committed, I'm only being a hard-ass on this because someone (NOP, on the old SSM board) was with ME, and -- like you -- I compromised on this, and it led to my wife's re-contact with OM. This is NOT the thing with which you want to compromise.
"Dealbreakers," are -- by definition, well . .. um . .. dealbreakers.
Yes, she does and that frustrates the hell out of me. Hopefully soon she'll be out of there,it just takes too long.
Dealbreakers... I know you're right. But the alternative looks so dire. I'm not ready to throw the towel yet. I'll try to learn from your mistakes. I promise. Thanks
"But the alternative looks so dire. " Yes it does, but you have to see it as an extreme possibility. Only then will you have no fear going forward.
Once you confront that fear of the D (and you will like many of us), you will truly believe that if you work things out you'll do great...if things don't work out you'll do great. We each have our own timeline but there will be a time where something will just 'click'.
Then you'll truly be happy and no matter what the W (and the world for that matter) throws at you, you'll be prepared. How do you get there? One step at a time, one second at a time.
It's weird how our WAS's have have that 'power' over us when this first happens.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
we need it. otherwise we wouldn't be able to make mortgage payments. But on the other hand is the sake of the M. With my W is damn if I do, damn if I don't...
I was on that road once. Was ready to move on and sure that this was the end of my M and D was inevitable. Then she reapeared and my feelings, hopes and fears also came back. It's hard to do it when she's around... Not that I mind but that's the way it is.
