In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

[MrBond]

Yes she is.

That's why you've got to keep your mind on what you have on your signature line.
"It is MY SONS that need for me to model for them (not TELL them, not even TEACH them, but LIVE OUT FOR THEM, every day to the best of my ability, what it means to be a man of character. "

I would even change the last part to "what it means to be a PERSON of character" so they understand that not all women behave badly. This is so that when they grow up, they'll learn to respect women irregardless of how their mom's acting.