In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

[dburt]

Please man up, take the kids, stay the night, if she comes great if not, great. Pretend that she is gone, that you are moving on with your life. What will that be like. Practice if for a while, and make the best of it for you and the kids.

Burt

[Puppy Dog Tails]

well, perhaps we're being unfair. I mean, she DOES need to figure out just where to hang all her Bon Jovi posters, right??

[working on me]

Thanks Burt and everyone.

It's time for testicular fortitude ,I know.

I will be tasking them.

I just got off the phone with her a few minutes ago about logistics for the kids today.

I told her that I was going to be geting a hotel room as well so the boys wouldn't have to be in the car for 9hrs. in one day.

She paused and then said, ok

So the trip is on.

She is a real sucky person right now, I am disgusted!

[MrBond]

Yes she is.

That's why you've got to keep your mind on what you have on your signature line.
"It is MY SONS that need for me to model for them (not TELL them, not even TEACH them, but LIVE OUT FOR THEM, every day to the best of my ability, what it means to be a man of character. "

I would even change the last part to "what it means to be a PERSON of character" so they understand that not all women behave badly. This is so that when they grow up, they'll learn to respect women irregardless of how their mom's acting.

[working on me]

I will make that change, thanks.

Full credit must be given to one of my jedi masters for that quote, Thanks Puppy Dog Tails, I read that over and over and it centers me and gives me strength.

[working on me]

Well the profile says its to long if I change it to person, but message well recieved.

[runningoutoftime]

Have a fun weekend at the snow! I like that you invited her to go, but are planning to continue with the trip regardless of whether she joins or not. That's what "creating your life" is about. Doing things, and trying to have a great time with or without her.

One problem I notice is you seem to still be expecting things from her. And when you don't hear what you want or expect you get angry. You need to detach much more. Once you do your emotions won't be so extreme.

[steady]

...Let HER decide what's more important, that or figuring out the proper Feng shui for her futon and lava lamps.

Stop giving her all the control.

Puppy

The feng shui line is a killer Puppy. I laughed my @ss off.

WOM good for you. Move forward whether your W comes along or not. Work on detaching. That's something that should be a priority for you. Once you detach you won't feed into her negative baiting of you. I'm still learning it and have gotten baited a few times this week. But it's a process and comes easier with time.

Have alot of fun with your kids.