I know I can't fight the tide, I just need to float... One day at a time, step by step, let go and let God. So simple, yet so difficult.
THAT...is the equation.
I agree song...it is always easier to type that out on the PC than it is to enact it out. Perhaps, the light for you is there. Really, there is nothing you can do to stop or change this. The only thing you can do is CHANGE YOURSELF. It takes so long for people to know and recognize this and in the interim, we choke our spouse's trying to explain it the way it should be....trying to talk sense into them....selling ourselves as changing...etc.
It just doesn't work.
Being in this myself, the most wonderful thing you can do is just DROP IT and do JUST AS YOU DESCRIBED ABOVE...focus on the kids. The best line I have read from ANY book is in The New Earth. It is simple but very deep. When your kids are with you or talking to you, "be in the moment" with them. No phone calls..no TV...no computers....nothing but net (kids).
The next time you feel the urge to 'R' talk with your W, think of her listening to you and hearing , "blah, blah, blah ,blah, blah......"
When SHE gets your dander up or hurts you, think or say to yourself , "kids, kids, kids, kids, kids"
Your on track song. Let her go for now. Look into you. Find out what you like about yourself and rejoice in that.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
