Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Yea buddy, my friends keep telling me she (the W) is going through this too. Again, if we keep chasing, then they will just keep running. You can't worry about her and how she feels and how she is going to react. Who gives a flip if she gets mad because you're coming for a visit or staying for good. You're one out of a couple million in this area, you can do what you want.
You're doing this for your kids and yourself (REPEAT IT, REPEAT IT, REPEAT IT)
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I went ahead and contacted the agency to apply for one of the business analyst positions at the company where my W works. I know she will be ticked off. But hey, I need a job and it pays excellent. The recruiter said that since they had come to me before then he is comfortable forwarding on my resume.
Oucha. We will see if I get an interview or not. I can't be worried about what my W thinks though.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Yeah, who cares what she thinks, she obviously doesn't care about what you think.
I strongly urge you to concentrate all your energy on working on a new you. Let go of trying to get her back and focus on getting YOU back.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
I still haven't spoken to her today. Although I did have to respond to an email from our kids counselor that included my W on it. But again, I said nothing to W.
Yeah, I'm just kind of wondering if I should let her know I have submitted for one of the BA positions there because it would help me get going and it would help us move to Jacksonville FL where she eventually wants to move to in the next couple of years if things don't work out with OM. That would allow me to help make that happen if I can nail a job be it this one or another.
If I don't tell her and she finds out which she will, oh man, she is going to be livid. But if I do tell her, I wonder if she will try and sabatoge it. She is quite the popular one there. She knows everyone there. Heck, that is where she met OM at before he was fired.
Just trying to decide if it is better for her to know and explain how it helps us towards her goals or if it is better for her not to know and I just show up and she freaks out.
She is a BA there and will know at some point. Its a contracting position. But its 9 months and would really benefit my resume.
If I don't tell her and I get the interview and she sees me walking by to interview with no prior knowledge, I wonder what she will do.
I just want a job. I don't care if she is there or not. And she is the one that told me they have 2 openings but that she did not want me there.
Well, I applied anyways. Can she be that evil that she would literally go out of her way to make sure I didn't get a job there?
Not sure. But the possibility is real.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I can't get ahold of my kids again. And I know there is nothing going on tonite.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Ok, I got to videochat with my kids. They are doing good. It was kind of hard tonite. I miss them terribly. Only a few more days. I'm not telling them anything though.
Just debating whether to leave Saturday or Sunday.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
