Ok people I have read through it all a few times now.
I know you all are getting frustrated with me, and I see why.
As puppy put it I need to go dim, so that's what I will do.
As I said the other day, she told me that she wanted to move into the extra bedroom. She said she wants all my stuff out of there so that she can create a space for herself. Tomorrow she will be setting it up they way she wants with the help of her mother, the most negative bad seed man hater i have ever met.
Last week I told her that I wanted to take the kids to the snow. Several months ago we told and promised them that we would go this winter. Many times in the past we have told them that we were going to go do something fun but those plans were not followed through on. My wife has usually come up with some reason or another to back out. This has been a big issue that I have had for a few years now, where she doesn't take the kids to go do anything fun. She leaves it soley up to me to take them to the park, swimming, bikeriding, hiking, beach combing, tide pooling, you know, anything fun. Where I have said to her in the past we rarely go do anything fun as a family, we need to plan out fun stuff to do on weekends and follow through. She would often say, you know I just can't leave the house when it's a mess without thinking about it the whole time and then have to come home to a messy house. She always just wants to either sit around the house because she has "had a tough week and just needs to relax" or she just wants to sit around while the kids just watch tv.
Like I said this has been a big issue of ours.
So last week I told her I was going to take the kids to the snow and if whe would like to go that would be great, but if not I would take them either way. She asked me to postpone it until this weekend because she left town to pickup her mom at the airport three hrs. away and spent the night to march in aprotest the next day. So I did postpone it.
Then yesterday I asked her if she still planned on going with us to the snow and she said well I will be setting up my room with my mom on friday and I don't know how much I will get done. So I said does that mean your not going because I am going to take them either way. She responds with well I won't know until I see how much I get done.
What total B.S., all she has to do is move a couple of things around and go and buy a bed. It makes me so angry that earlier in the week she had me look into hotels so that we wouldn't have to do the 4.5 hr. drive back for a totall of 9hrs. in the car including playing in the snow. UHGGG!!!!
So how should I handle this?
Should I just take them without her and still stay at a hotel?
For some reason I feel like I need to get her permission to spend the money on the hotel and food, etc.
Yet last month she bought $600 worth of concert and music clubbing tickets, as well as clothes.
I thought we were broke, and filed for bankruptcy!
