I began posting as "Laughing Between Tears" but with what I thought was understanding, growth, insight, and healing, I changed my name to just plain "Laughing", but now, years later, I find I am no longer laughing, and left with nothing but the tears....
Dick has successfully destroyed everything within me, has been able to have me considered legally insane, and has gain residential custody of the children, who right now live with two separate families, and on May 8th will be taking the children to California.
Ruthless, yes, for there is no one who now can see the me I obviously had fooled myself into thinking I was, for if he wasn't right about me, he wouldn't have been able to have the court defend him in the way he has. Oh, I have had documentation of his lies, yet, some how, some way he has prevailed, as he assertains rulings in is favor.
No Mother should have to watch their children loose hope, loose their faith, loose their life in the manner I have seen. The three of us, empty shells, living in disbelief, knowing there is no one who can or will help us, as we watch Dick's power over us grow.
And this is what has happened to Laughing.....
Thanks for listening and caring enough to wonder where I've been.
I'm sorry the final chapter didn't end with a happy ending, I guess I was just fooling myself.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
L Im sorry for your pain and how your situation has worked out I obviously do not know you or your full story but I believe there is still hope for you no one can detroy us you can still start over now again rebuilding what is keft therapy helps so much to find your inner strength ..it is there dick on the other hand..will meet his destiny in time work on yourself so whereever your children are, they can see your growth courage and strenth the truth will win in the end God is more powerful than your X peace
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I hope in time some good can possibly come from this. Something good. And while I don't wish suffering on others...I find myself tempted in your husband's case.
I am sorry, but more sorry to see how this has crushed your spirit. I hope you find the strength to raise above again, you weren't fooling yourself, don't give him that power over you. Don't doubt yourself because of these things. That is the saddest thing to have happened...so please stop.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Oh Laughing, I have been amazed by your story and horrified that the system has not protected you and your children. I have no idea how these things happen??????????
Please please do not give up hope for better days. One day your children will be adults and have the legal right to do whatever they wish.
I hope you can find a little bit more of that amazing strength that you have shown. Do not let him crush you. ((((())))))
This was the saddest post I have read here so far. I am so sorry, very sorry. Dont give up, no man can define who we are, no one else but our selves. I dont know how old your kids are but dont doubt they will now need you more than ever to become strong again, for you and for them. (((()))) K
My heart goes out to you. I have tears from just reading your post. Noone should have to bear the things that you have. I hope and pray that things will soon start to look brighter.
Words fail me also...and many of us have shared your tears while reading this.
Someone else said that Dick ...or any one person... does NOT have the power we think they may have.
Man may think they have carved out a journey of their own making, but God is the one that decides which path He will have that person on in the end.
At present, maybe it looks like your X had achieved everything he set out to do...but NO ONE can take your faith, your spirit and your hope away. Don't let what he has done take those things away from you. He is NOT all powerful. He is NOT the 'winner' in all of this. He is NOT in for a wonderful, carefree life. And he certainly is NOT the better parent.
I don't know how he finiggled (is that a word?) things to go in his favor, but never ever think that things do not make a complete circle..things will come back around to him in time and bite him in his a**. Your kids, because of the way you've raised them and loved them, are going to be able to see through all of this, and one day soon I hope, come back to your waiting arms.
Is there anything that you need? Anything that we can help you with other than our support and prayers? How can we be there for you through these dark days?
Laughing, please remember...this is not the end of the story. This is where you have to dig really, really deep and find Laughing again. You can't let him and what he's doing destroy you, because those kids are expecting you to be strong for them.
I'm with Jack. I don't want to wish bad things on someone, but I could make an exception in this case pretty easily.
Don't leave the board Laughing..the love and support you will find here...the need we feel to try to comfort you...somehow, will be what we all need.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
Laughing, I'm glad to see you came here to post. You need this board now more than ever.
Dick doesn't have any power over you. You have to dig deeper my friend and do not allow him to destroy you further. Right now, it's your darkest hour, but we don't know what the future holds for you and your family. We all have to have faith and hope that God will turn this around for your little family. Do not lose hope in his good will.
It may appear that he's won, but in days to come, it will come back to bite him on the @ss. What goes around comes around.
Now, we need to find a way to help you. Since you sense that the town is against you, it's time to pull up stakes and get the h@ll out of Dodge. If the children are going w/him to CA, it's time for you to think about relocating to some place else and starting over where people do not know the history of this nut and you. It's time to focus on you and get you back on level, solid ground so that you can be there for your children.
Laughing, it's not over by any means. The last chapter has not been written and it will not be written for a long time. Stay strong and know that we are all here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
