I can't remember -- does she have contact with OM at her job?
Committed, I'm only being a hard-ass on this because someone (NOP, on the old SSM board) was with ME, and -- like you -- I compromised on this, and it led to my wife's re-contact with OM. This is NOT the thing with which you want to compromise.
"Dealbreakers," are -- by definition, well . .. um . .. dealbreakers.
