I agree with PD. If you can pull yourself together; go on the date. Like I said in an earlier post; it's obvious she still cares. You should start just listening to her and let her decide when and what to tell you. I know that's hard; but necessary as you work to save your M.
I also think that you should go on the date; because if she feels that the two of you never did anything (totally supposition on my part BTW); then this would be a 180 for you. Setup up something light and fun. Talk, try to find some humor; and give her a safe place to let out her feelings.
Because she's still so involved in talking with you and sharing what she's feeling; I don't think now is the time to go dark. So work on your "loving detachment" and go on that date. cheer up; you can only change you. Let your W see a better you!
