I know you are trying. Look back to your old threads and see just how much you have grown through this!
What I mean is that it probably seems to you that everything with the ow is fine and dandy, it doubt that very much. Your H is lost right now and the only thing that will help him is time and (that ugly word) patience.
My H would tell me that he was done with the ow and move home. It wasn't done they were still in contact. Then my H would move out again, etc.
It does take some time for them to totally break it off with the ow. In my H's case it took a good year to be completely free and to get over the guilt of hurting her!!!
YR....u are going to think this is probably a horrible thing to say but I really don't care if he hurts the OW....IMO she deserves it....phew got that out...LOL!! I want to run them over...my patience is wearing thin...
you are right....I am 100% better than last year at this time...crying is rare now..I'll be okay...I just know it....
MAH my DB mom...you're the best....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
I know what you are saying about hurting the ow. I thought the same thing. It bothered me because he didn't seem to care if he hurt me or the kids. I too think they deserve it especially when they know that they are M and breaking up a family!!!
YR...as a matter of fact, I want her to feel this pain...My H says he's not going to be a lonely old man....why? because he has OW and she takes excellent care of him...WTF? and I didn't? wow, everything he says to me now goes straight to the heart....insert knife....TWIST!!! That's what it feels like....he will never answer me with what I really want to hear....so why do I torture myself and ask all those stupid things? Although I've learned not to ask much....cause I don't talk to him anymore...no talk, only text in the past week and a half...right now he disgusts me...he has taken a beautiful family and drug it through the mud....
Tomorrow I go to the doctor....scared a little...will need a mammogram...new doc...hate to go through all that again....but I haven't been since my hysterectomy....couldn't find a doctor...say a prayer all...I will need them...
And YR...did your H say why he didn't care if he hurt you but couldn't hurt the OW? I don't understand that...we have been with them through everything and then someone comes in and snatches them and we become the dirt...I'll never get it...not even going to try...plus....she's ugly...lol....she really is...at least to me...I told my H during the last breakdown that I will always be his first wife, his first love....and he said, "I know, I never said I was trying to take that away"...but he is..he is replacing me....with his new love...
Last edited by Treese; 03/27/0912:35 AM.
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Let it ALL go Treese! And then...move ahead. No more looking back.
(((Treese)))
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
Treese, have you read any of my story? I was smacked in the face with sep/d almost at the same time. I dont understand their thinking. Just keep praying for them. Treese you reap what you sow, believe me they will reap.
YR, my xh told a friend that he wanted to keep contact with me by phone (i assume, he doesnt text much or email)at least every 2 weeks and for me to call me when I have a true emergency. Why do you suppose he is saying this and did your husband say this? When he's mad he says he never wants to talk of course.
My H did the same thing. I asked him one time in the beginning, how could you hurt the people you loved 5 minutes ago and carry on with someone else? He would just say it was over and for me to get over it and move on with my life that he was happy now and the ow was everything he wanted. WHATEVER!!!!!
