Sorry I haven't been around much - h problems! I'll be away for a while now.
Just a quick note to say, that reducing negative feelings is not appeasement. It is not rising to or engaging in the argument, two quite separate things - therfore reinforcing her negative feelings. You are still quite able to be firm and set boundaries whilst doing this.
Very true -- good point!
The difference is UPON WHICH HILLS do you make your stands. If it's stupid little stuff, then let it go. If she is doing something that disrespects you, is harmful to your children, or in any way violates your own personal integrity, then call her on it and stand your ground. Don't be an ass, but don't put up with disrespect, either. But yeah, the little stuff you can just let it slide in the interest of peace.
