You are right in saying the Appeasement Strategy is/has not working/worked because it isn't/hasn't. My initial reasons for appeasement were validation to allieviate negativity, and, if I am being honest to try to get my wife to respond to me in hope of reconcilliation. I now see this, and the other strategies I have used has not been successful either, also my continual badgering of her friends and her finding out about some lies I told have, I believe, pushed her out of the door forever. I understand these strategies take time, but she is so focused and determined to end our marriage, and also she has built this inpenetrable around her which cannot be breached.
I have to think about the children and me and will not care what she thinks or does.
Out of curiousity, why would she be detaching from me? Is this finality on her part as she has not at any stage tried to talk about our relationship - it is as though she has just turned a switch off.
Last edited by markhaving probs; 03/26/0902:40 PM.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
