I have thought long and hard about this. I do not wish t disrupt the children in any way. I have asked them subtley what would happen if they lived away from the house? They said they loved it there and would be very sad, and I do not want to jeopordise their happiness at the moment because unfortunately they have been present when we haved rowed and I am not prepared to put them through this anymore.
I am focusing on the children now and me, as the advice I have received says to forget her, what she says, what she does because I cannot control that. It may come across as being weak, but whereas my wife is acting selfishly because she now wants "me time", I am putting my children first as this is something I did not do in the past. I think there is a secret agenda here, but I have spent too much time snooping and trying to find evidence of an EA/PA/OP but I have found nothing and I want to move forward for their sakes and mine with as little disruption as possible. It certainly suits my wife's requirements, but I do not really care what she does, and if I am not there I do not have to keep wondering what is going on. It will probably be 'out of sight, out of mind' for her but as divorce is her driven passion what I do at the moment does not make any difference anyway.
Last edited by markhaving probs; 03/26/0912:01 PM.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
