It s the ring I bought for my wife when I asked her to marry me, I went back the next day to secure it. As the years passed, my wife always said that she wanted a bigger stone and maybe a new setting when we could afford it. She clearly wanted something she could be more proud of, and I certainly anticipated doing it on an anniversary one year. Anyway, the odd thing is that I just noticed that she still wears it. She takes it off to shower, dishes, etc., so it comes off. But even though she doesn't really like it as a jewelry piece, she is still wearing it. I know we all grasp at things, and I am certainly not trying to read anything into it. But I wonder what goes through a women's head at times like this, and I can't help but think that if it were me and the rolls were reversed and I was kicking the door down to file for divorce and get out ASAP, I probably would have had it in my jewelry box...discuss.
Chi, this is an example of the very things that LBH's can start obsessing about. She could be sentimental over the ring, or it could be a habit that she just does without putting a lot of thought into it. Who knows what may be going through her head? But try very hard not to get hung up on these types of actions from her b/c it will drive you nuts trying to figure her out. I say that b/c this "ring" thing comes up all the time with men and their WAW. Try to put it out of your head. Not to sound cold hearted, but really, it is the least of your worries right now. I would strongly suggest, though, that you do not decide to try to pull a big romantic event and present a huge diamond ring at this time while things are in an upheaval. The timing is not right and it would not make her melt at your feet and make everything with the world right again.......as you would like to think it would. I know.....you did not say any of those things......that is me reading between the lines.
Take care, Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
