Wife is out and annouced OM to all #2

[Amy M]

I agree with Puppy on the Leading. I get the impression that you never really had a chance to "court" her...even in the beginning. That's an exciting part of a dating relationship. The getting to know each other, the wondering whether he'll call, the wondering if he'll ask you out, etc., etc. I think you can make this fun.

When my H moved out the first time, and we tried to work things out, he called about twice a week (after the kids were in bed)and just chatted. Sometimes he asked to see me, sometimes he didn't. I loved it!

I realize your sitch is reversed, but I still think Puppy's right...a girl wants to be led.

And if you can just get access to her records online, then you can check as much as you need without her even knowing how often you look. You don't want to get into a situation where you have to constantly ask her for the info...then she'll feel "controlled." If she doesn't know each time you are checking, she can tell herself that you aren't, and she'll be less likely to harbor resentment about it.

And, this will be harder than the other...I've read some of the piecing threads! But, I sense that you are up for the task...stronger than you realize!

We are all so rooting for you and praying that her heart's in the right place this time!!!!! (((((TOM)))))

Amy