Going dark when you share kids doesn't mean absolutely no contact. Just talk about the kids period.

Your 11 y.o. is responsible enough at her age, so tell her when exactly you plan to call every day and to be sure she has her cell phone.

You don't always have to be on video chat. Sometimes the phone call is enough when they're not home or have a short amount of time with you.

When my W and I separated, I called my D's every night to wish them goodnight and didn't talk to my W.


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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