Divorce looming #6

[jaguilar]

If I was coming down but don't say anything about the interview. It's your house, check with the local sheriff's department. It's not like she has restraining order on you. Maybe she could stay at a friends while you stay at the house and hang out with the kids.

[MrBond]

She can't stop you from seeing your own kids. If she feels uncomfortable about you in the house, then pick them up and take them somewhere fun.

Show them the father that you are.

[K4D]

She knows I have a friend that will let me stay there until June. I'm just worried about if I do get this job by some chance, what do I do in 6 months when it ends if I have gotten my own place. Obviously I will still be looking for a permanent job while working this one assuming I even get it. If I don't get it, at least I get to see my kids.

I'm putting my faith in God that this will all work out and if he doesn't want me to do it, then something will stop me from doing it.

Kevin

[MrBond]

Yes don't think of the 6 months down the line. Take it one day at a time.

[K4D]

I still haven't talked to W today. But I am trying to get ahold of my daughters and they are not answering their phones. Usually I have to text W to get them to answer or for them to get online so I can see them and talk to them.

I know on Wednesday nights they have their awana program at church and don't usually get home til 8:30. They may be running late tonite.

W told me yesterday she is going out Friday night and hiring a baby sitter. Says she has somewhere to be at 8:30. I didn't ask anything about it. I guess she just told me because the girls would not be able to webcam with me that night since she does not allow them on her computer unless she is there.

I don't know what her plans are nor do I want to know.

Kevin

[K4D]

I called D11's cell phone back and wouldn't you know it. W answered it. And then handed it to D7. I asked D7 to get on the computer so I could video chat with her. She asked her mom. Then W got back on the phone with me and explained their evening and that they are home late and the kids homework isn't done so they won't be able to video chat with me tonite. She apologized and said they would be able to tomorrow night and then handed the phone to D11.

Now how am I supposed to stay dark when she always manages to either talk to me on videochat before the kids get on, or answers my daughters phone? I did not engage in any conversation though. I merely said ok.

Kevin

[K4D]

I guess I managed to still stay dark though by not engaging in the conversation.

Kevin

[jaguilar]

Kevin,

Sounds like she is trying to conrtol the situation. You keep doing what you're doing. Call your daughter's phone, don't text your wife and document when you call your kids and they don't answer.

Wasn't your whole plan to get a job down here TO BE NEAR THE KIDS? Ok, if you get the job, then you're near the kids AND you get your foot in the door with the company but you continue to look around. There are lots of jobs here in the DFW area, you just have to look for them.

Stay Positive - Stay Strong!

[K4D]

Thats my plan. Thats what I am doing.

Kevin

[MrBond]

Going dark when you share kids doesn't mean absolutely no contact. Just talk about the kids period.

Your 11 y.o. is responsible enough at her age, so tell her when exactly you plan to call every day and to be sure she has her cell phone.

You don't always have to be on video chat. Sometimes the phone call is enough when they're not home or have a short amount of time with you.

When my W and I separated, I called my D's every night to wish them goodnight and didn't talk to my W.