Also I am trying to go dark a little bit on Dan. That is part of my inner battle, trying to decide if my trying to be his 'best friend' is the right thing to do or just letting him cake-eat.
For example he is gone now for 2 weeks to Canada. I have a separate bank account now and he has the old joint account (I am still on it and can use it, but don't), plus he opened a new account at a different bank but left the debit card for it at our/my house, so he has not used that account.
Anyway I had sorted out his bills from my bills when they come in the mail. He said with being out of the country he hadn't had time to pay them... Friend/doormat/enabler(?) me offered to pay those bills while he was gone last week and he was very relieved and thanked me. So I am paying bills out of two different checking accounts. He is supposed to pay every other week of daycare so I pay one week on my own checks, the other on his/our old checks, etc.
Well today I open my electric bill and I have two bills in the envelope. One with my name at our current address, one with my name at his new house address as the location of the bill but our current home as the billing address. I noticed even his debit card and checks for his new bank account show our current (my) address. He is still having all of his mail sent to our original house, even for things he has set up since he bought the other house?? I know he isn't living there yet but the house does have a mailbox! And he could check the mail when he goes over to work on it...
Don't know if I should leave that alone or bring it up. The only one that concerns me is the electric bill. I don't particularly care if it comes to our address but it shouldn't be in my name. I imagine he gave them his name and our address and they saw the other account and just mailed them together. But his name should be on the account, not mine. It just happens that I was going to live there by myself when the kids and I moved in June so all of the utilities are in my name only.
Anyway I did not contact him yesterday. He called me Monday night after the kids should have been in bed (9:15) but they were up-like I said they are off-schedule plus we had severe storms that night to keep them up. Anyway he called that night but we got disconnected due to the weather and neither of us called the other back. Then last night I had conferences and didn't call him and he didn't call our house, even to wish the kids goodnight. Although I know he is working 18 hour days so he may have still been at the plant and lost track of time.
So point is I wasn't planning to contact him until he contacts me. But I would like to just let him know I am setting an appointment for Nathan and that his electric bill is in my name...i guess if he calls tonight I will mention it (just the facts, as John says!). If not, i may email or text it to him tomorrow.
Even things as silly/basic as, the kids and I going to Disney World. Dan said he wants to go with us, but he mentioned having an adjoining room. Well, I don't want to book that unless I know he will actually be in the country when we go...but yet I am a planner so I want to start planning now and setting the dates now...
