Thank you guys so much! I looked up several counselors for children and for families. Several of the family counselors offered special services for divorcing parents to help them sort out the details/impact on the kids in that event. However since we aren't at that point they wouldn't be a good fit for us.
I did find one that caters strictly to children. They have different counselors for different things, as specific as bedwetting and even fire-setting (!), but then there was one counselor at the group who works with kids in family/marriage/divorce type issues who might work.
I figure i will call that one tomorrow, and a couple of more general family counseling services vs. kid counselors. And just tell them the situation, what we are concerned about, etc.
I suppose the only thing I am really concerned about is I don't want some counselor going in and telling Nathan his parents are getting divorced and its okay cause everything will be just great! Maybe that is selfish but I feel like that just gives Dan the get out of jail free card....
I think what we need to figure out is what is going on in Nathan's head, if he is really spending time worrying about us, whether we will get back together or not, the impact of his home life being turned upside down,etc. With Dan in Canada again all week, and I have night class plus parent conferences which means that I am gone pretty much all of Tues.Wed.Thurs. this week, the kids are not in their comfy routine. Plus two nieces had birthdays two weekends in a row so the kids were at both sets of granparents over the two weekends which further messed up our 'home' time...
Anyway I will try to get it sorted out and get him into a counselor asap.
He did get in trouble at school again today. Long story but I am 50/50 whether he was just being a goofy kid or being disrespectful. As a teacher myself, I have to give his teacher the benefit of the doubt that she believed it was disrespect, regardless of nathan's explanation...
