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yea,

Some people are helping me in my thread and I talked about the mixed signals.

Those are them. So many times we talk and it's like we are still together. Then there are days where she is mad at the world and it's all my fault. Then there are the days where no contact - we divorcing and don't want to talk to you.

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Strange but I try to be pleasant and treat them all the same.


With my wife I have to fight the urge to step up and try to correct it for her. It has become more than obvious to me that she hates that!!!!!!!!! Big Time!!!!!!


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Hey Trapt, whats up?


"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out."
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Originally Posted By: Kenn
With my wife I have to fight the urge to step up and try to correct it for her. It has become more than obvious to me that she hates that!!!!!!!!! Big Time!!!!!!


Yeah they really don't like it much when you try to play Mr. Fix it. Listening and not offering advice unless asked ussually make things a bit smoother.


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Originally Posted By: SoConfused
Mine told me during the last convo we had that he didn't have anyone to talk to about stuff.


That is the truth, remember the OW is usually just an escape.


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I know. It's just a teensy weensy little blow to the self esteem. Especially when they pick someone like that.


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Yep. It is at first, but when you realize why they do what they do, you begin to understand that it shouldn't be.


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Did you write my quiz yet? LOL


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So true about the advice Trapt,

that was one of my biggest flaws during marriage. When she first told me I stayed in house for two months. I started spending more time with her and just listening'

It was really enjoyable. Those two months staying there messed me up worse than anything because it was fun and we spent more time together. Kind of like getting one more lick of the ice cream cone before someone takes it away.

But I am really working on not trying to fix stuff.. Probablly not as good at it as I think though \:\)


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Did you write my quiz yet? LOL


Have you been reading.


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