I knew about your A. Long before the private investigator, long before you told me you wanted a D, I saw what was happening - but I did not want to accept it. I am devastated and hurt beyond words, my world is in shambles, and this will destroy our family and our marriage. I want you to end all contact with him, and recommit to our marriage.
Before you met me, you made a lot of decisions I know you regret. You looked for happiness in a lot of the wrong places, and you did a lot of things to yourself I know you regret. The last thing I want for you is to allow yourself to be used and discarded like you have been in the past by people who are only taking advantage of you while pretending to care.
You deserve a better life than that. You deserve to be happy. You deserve, and if you choose, will have more from me as well.
I promised you on (wedding date) that I would stand by you, for better or for worse. I won't abandon you now when I can see how much you are hurting, even when nobody else can see the pain you are going through, even when you probably feel like nobody can really understand what you feel.
I don't hate you. I'm not angry with you. I'm not here to gripe at you and tell you what to do. I want the best for you - and I always will.
You are the love of my life W. I hope to be able to show you that for the rest of our lives if God wills it for us.
H
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
