If you have it in you....IF YOU HAVE IT IN YOU. Try harder to get her to tell you the truth. There are a lot things we (as humans) think. We think we can't forgive affairs, but some of us do. We think we can't forgive drinking, but some of us do. The important thing...MOST important thing...*to me* is for her to tell her story. All of it. You DO need to know what happened. Try your very very very hardest to be gentle and not yelling. Tell her all that matters is her being open and honest. That you don't know what the future holds. But you know that you love her, and that yeah, something did happen, but that if it is possible to work through it, and if she is interested, IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE THE BITTER END UNLESS SHE MAKES IT SO. SHE needs that book, "Broken Open" This is a road she had to go down. The thing is, does she learn something from it? Does she become a better person for it? You can actually have a better marriage AFTER something like this if you can just appreciate each other more, change some things, JUST BE FRIGGIN HONEST WITH EACH OTHER (which I think is the hardest *for everyone* because we are so caught up in pleasing everyone else. If you have it in you, give her a way back in. God does forgive. Remember the old story about casting stones???
Ugh. I am sick for you, but you have an opportunity here to be a VERY BIG MAN if you want to be.
(((hugs))) and prayers.
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
