Sorry I havent posted for a bit, I'm really not sure what to say anymore! I thikn its great that she was so appreciative of your kind efforts at Mothers Day. And I agree, where is the OM all the time in all of this?? With the chimney and the work issues, as you say.
I can see perhaps, from an outsiders perspective, a similarity as in my sitch... nothing has really changed, the WAS is behaving int he same manner, but its you thats changing a bit perhaps.. you are getting a little resentful and also, losing patience. And who can blame you? Its been 2 years.
As for you venting about her being self-inolved.. I know you are just blowing off steam, as its hard being in our shoes, whilst they have an OP to lean on.. and that you do love her really, as I do my ex. But again, I see similarities... on the phone, I told him I lost my job.. he just said "oh no" and then there was this silence, which I filled, but he asked me no more about it, depsite downloading to me for 20 minutes+ about his job !! and me showing alot of concern... I thkn they just did such a good job of pushing us out, leaving and erecting walls to stop us getting back in, they dont mean to come across as selfish, its just they are not emotionally available and are not focused on us, but on themselves and in my ex's case, their disastrous R with the OP.
SO try not to take it personally, is all I am saying, perhaps unconciously, they behave in a slightly cold, disconnected way because they arent in a position to give any false hope, so they kind of act liek they dont care! But I am sure she does care.
How much longer do you thikn you and I can realistically doing this, before we throw in the towel? I know I am down to my last few months now. How about you?
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
