Wow, I dont know what to say, but I'm sorry. Thats so tough, whats going on, its like she is just getting worse! Why do you say abuot 2x4's? You are not dbing her anymore, and no, you dont want to get dragged into a fight or feed her anger, but then, why shouldnt you express how much it hurts you and that you want her to be respectful? I worry about her attitude toward you and how it might leak out, either overtly or subtley, with Grace.. have you thought about going for some kind of family mediation, or counselling for the sake of your D? To resolve this anger and hostility between you? Could you suggest that to W? (I'm guessing not).
Also, are you still having IC as I am sure they would have some useful advice as to how to handle her and these continued bitter interactions. It really is sad, she is one nasty vengeful piece of work! (no disrespect, seeing as you married her!)
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
