So in addition to the morning conversation with the wife I had asked her if she had looked at the retrovi web site.
Back when she dropped the bomb my father told me about it and offered to pay. i told her at that point, about 6-7 weeks ago, she said she had no desire at that point to work on the marriage.
Last week I brought it up again, she said she would consider it after I said we owe it to us and the boys to give our marriage every last effort. She said she would look at the web site and keep an open mind about it. Most likely just placating me though. In addition, she said that she had a big issue with the fact that it was religious based.
So this morning I asked her if she had the chance to look at the website about retrovi. She said ya, but it didn't give enough info for her. She also said she would keep an open mind about the first weekend, but didn't want to commit to the post sessions. She also again that she is totally turned off by anything associated with organized religion so she doesn't know if she would be able to handle it.
She also said she was concerned that my father would be paying, and she didn't like the idea of commiting to it if she dicided to back out of it on the initial weekend and not go to the post sessions if my father was paying. I said then we should pay, she was unwilling to do so.
I also asked her if we could talk tonight about our communication, or really the lack of it. She said we talked enough over the weekend, she was having a bad week so she didn't want to. I said well last night you got upset with me when you felt i wasn't helping you out with the kids, but you didn't communicate that you needed any help. I then said that I told her that all she needs to do is ask for help and I will jump right in no matter what she needs. I said have i said no to doing anything that you have asked and she said no but you should have known I needed help.
I then said that's why we need to have a talk about communication, that's all, no relationship talk or anything, just how we can communicate with each other in a healthy way right now.
She began to get more angry at this point, and said no she didn't want to have a talk tonight or right then.
I said ok so when do you want to have a talk, she said I don't know just not right now or tonight. She then said, see this exactly it you are not listening to me, I don't want to talk, then left the room.
Later in the afternoon when I was poicking up my son and dropping off a salad and cupcakes I made for a party for one of her employees i asked, so did you decide when we can talk.
We then went back and forth about it just like this morning and she walked off pissed off saying I won't just let it go.
What am I supposed to do when she won't communicate in a respectfull way and expects me to read her mind. Especially when she refuses to talk or answer any form of question?
I know I should have not even asked to talk to her, but what am I supposed to do when I am just trying to find out how we can communicate at all?
