Glam, It sounds like you may have the "ugly bug" that's going around. The only thing I could eat was burned toast, ginger ale and hot tea for 4 days. How does the skin feel? Feel like it's been scorched? I know you mentioned your back hurting...try to rest as much as you can. I know you have the kids, etc. Be kind to yourself.
As for your h, don't expect anything out of him. If he says he's going to be there at 1...look for him at 4 or not. Time still doesn't mean anything to him and that sleeping pattern of his is nuts.
I'm sorry, but I had to chuckle at his conversation w/you about dating, etc. He's playing games with you and is fishing to see what you found in his car. He's testing the waters to see just what you'll say or do. Glam, I know you would dearly love to bust his chops on this right now, but sit quietly....the answers will come.
For now, go to your meeting on Thursday and take care of yourself. Turn all of this drama over to the man upstairs. He wants and needs to drive that bus for you for a while.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.