Did you finish reading my threads??? If not, you should. H and I had great days too after the bomb. We had some really incredible sex after the bomb. But, in the end, none of that mattered.
Please don't get your hopes up over a few good days, okay? I say that not to discourage you, but to encourage you to keep looking for ways to go on with your life without him...just so you can continue to detach. Detachment is key in this whole effort!! It could be a long road, and detachment allows you to have the patience to wait it out if need be.
Going to the party without him was great! Not asking about the trip in May was great! Don't ask about a vacation...I like the idea of planning one yourself. I don't even know that I'd invite him. Sounds like he's planning a trip without you, right?
I also encourage you to find a good thearpist if you don't have one already. Remember that you'll have good days and bad days (in fact, my recent week has been a perfect example of that even at this stage in my sitch!). So, make sure that you do what you need to do to take care of yourself...don't necessarily decide you don't need help just cause you feel okay this moment. I'm not saying you need the antidepressants, necessarily. I'm just suggesting that if you do need them for a time, that's perfectly okay given what you are dealing with!
Hugs and love to you!!!
Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
