DanceQueen, Please help me understand why my x-wife continues to have affairs with married men? She is now temporarily living with me because she got evicted. Its a long story but basically I took her in for my daughter. She is looking for a new place asap. Still she has a married BF she is in love with. He never offered to help her during her eviction process and now is in the hospital. Some blood clot or something. She cant go see him since its family only! 3 weeks ago she became very sick and called me for help. I took her to the ER. Only then I found out about the guy when he called her cell. I asked why didnt he come get you? Why did you call me? She just stares at me and says he couldnt. Wife in the way??? hmmmm I guess she knows I will always be there and am a sucker. Anyway she has always gone for married men except me. I was single 26 and thought I had found a great woman. I never knew her past until it happened to me. It lasted 12 years. At yr 7 she had an affair that I found out about after friends fessed up. I tried to make it work but she did it again and we are divorced. 5 years of trying to keep my family together. Now I have tried to talk to her about this latest affair as a friend. I explained how our daughter will never forgive her if she finds out. She was so hurt by the others and doesn ttrust her mother 100%. My X got very defensive and says she will not find out about this guy. Still he has come over to her old place and hung out. My daughter told me and she thinks he is a "friend". I fear she will put 1 + 1 together someday. NO married man hangs out at a single divorced womans place. So I dont understand WHY my X would take that chance? She lives for our daughter but risks it all so much. Why?? I have finally thought Id gotten past the pain. We were civil but her moving back in has opened a world of agony. I tired to get her to go to her sisters in S.C. but she wouldnt due to our daughter. Also because she says she doesnt want to be far from me either. She said she cant explain why but just doesnt. I was telling her she is worth more then some guys 2nd and that Im not saying it because I want her back. I cant get over the past I said but I do want her to be happy. She said, I know we cant go back in time, and teared up. Its like she wishes she had never done it all. Is she that messed up? Am I just the safety net? DO you still love the guy you cheated on even a little? I was a good husband and am a good looking successful guy too. Still I feel like I am the hunchback of Norte Dam to her. I feel worthless. It sucks!!
