It is good that you are able to look back at what happened with such a good attitude and impressive that, even in the depths of terrible pain, you became aware of choices and changes that you needed to make for yourself as well. I wonder what it is that you need to put to rest?
There is another MLC board where, although there are some helpful posters, many seem to be convinced that the implosion of their marriage is solely the fault of their spouse and the OP having an affair, and that when they got "the speech" they were completely taken aback.
The first time I posted there, many of the responses were "What difference does it make if he is in a MLC, you wanted out of the marriage and are getting a divorce." "Are you just annoyed now that you found out about the lapdances?, etc." I was shocked. Just because I had reached a point where I could no longer continue in that situation, didn't mean that what happened and my confusion over the changes in my h didn't matter.
It was purely instinct that I immediately saw a lawyer and started the separation/divorce proceedings. I had no idea he was digging us into a hole financially as well as betraying me emotionally, but I wasn't going to sit around and wait for him to make decisions on my future.
Although I didn't find out about the affair until we were apart for many months, I don't blame what happened on the affair. She is a symptom, not the disease. The MLC obviously started long before he strayed and I was very aware that there was something wrong for some time. I just didn't know what to do.
I am aware that even though I could not have altered the path that my xh is on, there were areas of my marriage where I could have and should have made improvements. I hope to remember those should I ever fall in love again.
Sorry, I meant that I am hoping to get another friend (other than the one who lives in BC) to go to Ireland. Flights to Ireland are about $850 - $1100. I don't know if that is good or not.
I have been to Greece, Italy and Spain at different times and loved all three of them, although Greece was the best. Other than that, aside from a few places in the Caribbean and Cuba, I haven't travelled much. I have seen very little of Canada as, you're right, it does always seem expensive to travel to other Provinces. I would love to see Newfoundland (went when I was three but don't remember) but it's hard to hit on good weather!
CAMPING! I do not envy you that. I hated camping even when I was a rowdy teenager. I had a bear stick his head into my tent once at Algonquin Park. Luckily I was too skinny at 12 to look like a good meal so he left.
