I know you have done this, and I don't know why I am bringing it up. I like you. I wish my H was a little more like you. But, I wish he was a little more like all of the Hs trying to get their wives back.
You mentioned about the trip to pick up son that she said she had things to do and you told us that you wish she would just say it was a boring drive and she didn't want to go. But you are putting words in her mouth here. Assume she told you the truth. Maybe she did have something going on that you don't know about. You can't say why she didn't want to go because you are not her. You are projecting what YOU think she thinks onto her. And that's not fair.
Now we get to the part that I know you have done, but maybe would have been okay to do at the time. To just call her on it and say, you know, I would appreciate your honest. If you really do have things to do, I understand. But if you don't want to go because it's a boring drive, then please feel free to say that, too. Let her know that you really do appreciate her honest opinion and feelings.
Because I had the affair, I have felt that there are a lot of things I have to keep in now. I know that's not right, but because we are on unsure footing, it is what I do. I am honest when asked a question, but it is still hard.
Anyway.
Good luck.
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
