You have planted a seed in your marriage and have been seeing evidence that is has taken root and has begun to grow. If you repeatedly rip the plant up by the roots to see HOW MUCH it's grown, the plant's gonna die. So just keep patiently tending the plant and have faith that the outcome will eventually bear fruit.
Here's a side note about plants (how green's your thumb?) Plants that thrive in really arid climates sink a really deep tap root before any evidence of growth appears at the surface. But, years later when the deep root is established, the plant is impervious to drought, flood, freeze and fire.
I don't know about you MB, but I find that appropriate and encouraging.
Hang in there. You're awesome and you need to be patient. More than you thought you could be. Or want to be. I think Mike was hoping to help you get perspective. Take it that way. I think he means to help you even when you don't want to hear it - just like a real friend does.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
